Goals. It’s a fancy word for ‘things you want to do in the new year’. I like to think of a new year as a new slate. I’ve realised in the past year that I have little to no self control. Ideally, this is something I’d like to work on in the new year by thinking of how not doing the thing will benefit future me. There we go, that’s a goal!
Introverts have a tough time during the holidays. I know this because I am one. It usually seems like a good idea to take on all of these social commitments, especially because the year is winding down.
However, once you’ve awkwardly made your way through another party you weren’t keen on attending, you’ll learn a few things quite quickly. I’ve made a list of things that will hopefully help you out.
Tinder is a nightmare. I know that’s a pretty standard sentiment for the average twentysomething to say, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. I’ve decided to recount my experiences with this nightmare of a dating app and show what men are really like.
Phone interviews are a quick way for employers to get to know who you are without actually meeting you. However, this isn’t always a good thing, especially if you’re unprepared. Some of the questions can easily throw you off, and it can be hard to recover while you’re on the phone.
So, I’ve just recently finished my third year course. Exciting, right? I’ve slogged in the hours, finally have something to show for it and hopefully will get into the workforce. I mean, that’s how it’s supposed to work.
Unfortunately for me, what I’ve found is the complete opposite. No one wants me, despite my experience, and it doesn’t matter that I’m willing to commute three hours to and from work. There’s plenty of more graduates who live closer to the jobs, have more qualifications than I do and are just bursting with fresh and innovative ideas that will progress whatever business hires them forward.
That’s not me being negative, either. That is the harsh reality I’ve found out and I’ve only been finished with university for two weeks now. I’m literally applying for everything that might be relevant towards my degree, but I’ve noticed that I’m leaning towards the marketing jobs when my major is professional writing/journalism.
Maybe I should go back to uni for another year, smash out a diploma in marketing and then try again afterwards. I wouldn’t mind doing that, but I doubt my family would be pleased. There is that option for me to do that. I think I might do that, admittedly.
I don’t know, it’s all too complicated. I just, want to make content and get paid for it. You honestly wouldn’t believe what these internships ask you to do. They literally work you to the bone (not the one I was at, the one I had was lovely, full to the brim with lovely people who are dedicated in helping their brand grow), but the one that my friend does, she is literally churning out articles for three brands and doesn’t get paid for it. The gif below was me when she told me.
It sounds a bit exploitative to me, but apparently, that’s just how the workforce is now. Instead of graduate jobs, we have unpaid internships. How on earth am I supposed to live and have a social life if all anyone in the workforce will give me is unpaid work? I’d have to go on Centrelink.
That just fuels the stereotype of all young people being on centrelink though, and it’s not like we’re given a chance to do anything else. We all want to work, there’s just no jobs. We are all experienced, but again, there’s just NO JOBS.
I remember hearing a story that my friend told me about my local area, and he said that for every one job posting, they get about 150 applicants. How ridiculous is that!? There is no way in hell that’s an unfair ratio at all, is it.
There is the potential that he could’ve been lying or misremembering a statistic and made one up just to sound impressive, but I take his word on it. So much for Malcolm Turnbull being all about ‘jobs and growth’ within the Australian workforce.
Oh well. Fingers crossed I find something soon. I’m going a bit mad just being at home all the time.
If you’re a recent graduate, or someone who has found themselves unemployed for a stretch of time, what are things that you’ve done to keep busy? Let me know in the comments!
Have a nice day x
I know. It’s been a month, and you’ve been completely lost without my thoughts on the world and what’s been happening with me in my life because you have a vested interest in a random on the internet.
I’m back now though, and I’m here to give you a bit of an update. This month has been one of the craziest of my life. I’ve finally finished my three year university course, finished my three month internship where my nose was to the grindstone and I’ve hit 5000 views on this website that I write for (which you can check out here). It’s definitely been busy. Add on top of that seeing my friends, my family and this fuckboy who ran away when I tried to make things serious and you have one exhausted twenty something year old.
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Today is the first day I’ve really had to myself. It’s nice. I’m glad I finally have a chance to reflect on just how much I’ve really accomplished within this month and focus on what’s in store later on for me. Hopefully good things! I mean, I’ve been feeling a lot better (it’s definitely not a change in my diet or a change in exercise) so I’m guessing that something mentally has shifted. Once I work on eating more vegetables and exercising 30 minutes daily, I will be unstoppable.
Or so I tell myself anyway.
What I’ve found lately is that I’ve got a really good group of friends around me and that we build each other up instead of just… seeing each other because we feel like we have to. I was talking to a coworker yesterday about this and she says that she still has friends like that at 30 years of age. I was in disbelief. What is the point of keeping people around that you’re not a fan of and that you don’t want to build up and grow with? If you’re not interested in their successes or who they are as a person, why keep them around? Especially if they annoy you? I just don’t get it.
I’m definitely not preaching or anything like that. I have a tendency to do this, and I’m pointing out that I’m not doing it now. Live your life however you want to. Go wild. I’m just also pointing out that if someone annoys you and you can remove them from your life, you’ll probably be more thankful for it in the long run.
How have you guys been finding this month? I hope you’ve had a good one! Let me know how it’s been in the comments below.
I’ve always been in favour of a more open dialogue that surrounds mental health. As a sufferer from mental illness, it can be really difficult and sometimes, even depressing, to be open about the fact that no, you can’t come hang out because you haven’t showered in 4 days and don’t have any motivation to get out of bed, let alone socialise. Although more and more people are being diagnosed with mental illness, with 1 in 5 Australians alone being diagnosed with anxiety or depression, you’d think that more and more people would be open and understanding about it all.
I’ve been really quite lucky with the people I surround myself with, as when I was really bad, they would always be understanding and there for me when I was going through the dark days. If you don’t know or haven’t been through the dark days before, count yourself lucky.
It’s honestly so difficult to keep on living when your brain wants to die, but it’s programmed in your body to wake up and want to do things each morning. It’s crawling into bed after a 8 hour shift at work and just not moving until you exhaust yourself into sleeping because socialising and just being around people was too much for you that one day. It’s not showering because you can’t motivate yourself to leave your bed. It’s having absolutely no regard for your studies or personal appearance, because you’re hopefully going to be gone soon, so what’s the point in making plans anytime soon?
I would like to point out that this was just my experience. I’m not lurking other people’s blogs to see if they’ve gone through the same thing have, because even though depression and anxiety are cruel mothers, they all have different ways of doling out their punishments on people.
Therefore, I am obviously all for Mental Health Week and the possibility of an open conversation that desperately needs to happen surrounding mental health and just, living really. Although there is more people talking about mental health and being open about their experiences, it’s still not really understood on a professional level. I can’t just message my boss and be like ‘hey, sorry, can’t come in today, I want to die’, because that’s a very personal thing to message your employer, and it’s also seen as unprofessional to be open about how you’re feeling. I dunno how to make mental health issues understood by employers, so if you guys have any tips, please let me know!